Another day, another talk, no results...

It’s been awhile since I’ve posted. Things have been quite busy lately.

My husband and I had to have another talk this week regarding the MIL. After she said everything about him divorcing me in March, I told him that I did not want to see the in-laws for awhile. I just felt like she had WAY overstepped a boundary and I just needed time to calm down. DH has never understood that. Last month, he ended up going to visit his parents for mother’s day. His mom absolutely comes unglued if he doesn’t go visit for both mother’s and father’s day. She thinks he’s obligated to do so. I had the wedding of a family friend to attend, so I did not go with him for his visit. This worked out really well because I had a good, valid excuse for not going and it kept from having to stir things up.

So this month, we have a wedding of DH’s friends to attend. His parents town is sort of “on the way” to the wedding. DH asked if we could stop and have lunch with them on our way back. I told him I would have to think about it and, again, that was a big deal. He, of course, asked me why I said that and I, of course, had to explain everything to him again and, of course, he argued with me. He just doesn’t get it. But not only does he not get it, he is still trying to convince me to see it his way!

This is one of the most frustrating things for me. He pushes and pushes to convince me that I should just go along and deal with them. He pushes me to go see them anyway. How am I ever going to convince him to TRY to see it my way, to TRY to understand how I’ve been treated and to TRY to put himself in my shoes? How do I do that?!?