Double Standards...

So after the whole "you should divorce your wife" fiasco of a few months ago, I told my husband that I didn't want to go visit his parents for awhile. I explained that I just wasn't comfortable and that I didn't think I should have to subject myself to that kind of treatment. Since he won't tell them not to say those things, I have to place the boundaries myself.

He absolutely blew up and threw a fit. He just thought that was awful that I would even consider him going by himself and me not going along. He doesn't think it makes any difference what they say to me and I should just suck it up and get along.

So now, the tables have turned. I am going to visit my parents this weekend. My grandparents are coming down and they are not in the best of health, so I made the decision to go down to my parents to spend some time with them. Yes, it happens to be Mother's Day. But it didn't matter to me whether it was a holiday or not, I just wanted to see my grandparents.

My husband does not want to go with me. He's decided to stay here and work and have a guys night. And I told him that was fine. No big deal. He eventually came out and said he didn't want to go because he didn't want to go to church. So I told him no big deal, just don't go to church. I would go because that's important to my mom and it IS Mother's Day, so that hour in church is nothing if that makes her happy. He didn't want to do that. That was not good enough. He just didn't want to go period. Fine. It's still no big deal. Although I would like for him to go, I'm not going to fight him over it. It's just for one night. No harm, no foul.

However, the more I thought about it, the more incensed I got. Why is it OK for him to say he doesn't want to go to my parents and for him to just think that's OK and expect me to be OK with it, but if I tell him I don't want to go see his parents for a MUCH bigger reason, he throws a fit. He is angered to no end. The double standard here is killing me!